The 7 Weirdest Parental Punishments

Every parent has their own unique approach to raising children. Parenting methods change with the times, but one thing every generation has in common is the need for discipline. Creativity meets necessity when some parents have to devise interesting and unusual ways to correct their children’s behavior.

Half of moms and a third of dads in the United States made New Year’s resolutions on parenting, with around 47% wanting to be more consistent with discipline, according to survey results released from the University of Michigan. Here are 7 of the weirdest parental punishments out there.

The “Empty Shelf”

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In this approach, a child’s shelf is cleared of all favorite toys and books when the child misbehaves. These items are stored away until the child’s behavior becomes more appropriate. Returning items one by one serves as a Physical token to remind them of what they’re working towards earning back.

Children can directly see the impact of their actions, making them lose their valued items. Dr. Scott Krugman, deputy chair of the Department of Pediatrics at the Herman & Walter Samuelson Children’s Hospital, states that while a child’s attachment to an object or a favorite toy can start at an early age of 9 months, a child has to be somewhat mature and understand cultural expectations before it can be impactful.

The “Silent Treatment”

In this case, silent treatment involves parents not speaking to their child for a certain period as a form of punishment. This technique is especially powerful with young children who desire communication and attention. It makes the child reflect on their actions in silence instead of using a verbal scolding.

Dr. Adele Faber, author of “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk,” explains that the “Silent Treatment” can be a double-edged sword. It may prompt self-reflection and should be used sparingly, as it may feel like emotional withdrawal to the child. A study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that children subjected to this method occasionally develop better conflict-resolution skills but may also feel insecure.

The “Cold Shower”

A cold shower as punishment may sound harsh, but some parents use it to correct specific behaviors like lying or stealing. The sudden discomfort is meant to serve as a strong deterrent.

Pediatrician Dr. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka warns that shocking methods like cold showers might deter specific behaviors. However, it can also make it hard for children to trust and feel secure. The American Psychological Association states that using physical discomfort as a punishment may be harmful and emphasizes that discipline can be applied in other, more effective ways.

The “No Dinner”

Punishing misbehavior by withholding food is also a very controversial topic, but parents often use it to create a direct consequence for bad behavior. Nutritionist Karen LeBillon states that using food as a reward or punishment is one harmful technique that contributes to unhealthy eating patterns.

Research from the National Institutes of Health indicates that children who associate food with punishment may develop negative eating habits or disorders. Rather than withholding dinner altogether, a smaller portion could be provided simultaneously to explain what caused the punishment. Make sure the child gets the necessary nutrition at all times.

The “Write an Essay”

Making children write an essay about what they did wrong can be a valuable way for them to reflect on their actions. This method encourages critical thinking and comprehension skills, with a focus on morals and etiquette.

Educator and author Alfie Kohn believes that writing essays can help children understand the consequences of their actions and develop empathy. A study published in the Journal of Educational Psychology states that reflective writing can significantly improve behavioral understanding and emotional intelligence.

The “No Screen Time” Suitcase

In an age where screen time is practically currency for kids, locking away their devices can be a powerful punishment. Some parents take this to the next level by confiscating all electronics and putting them in a suitcase with a combination lock. The kids are left to ponder what they did wrong while staring at the briefcase they cannot open.

According to a study from Common Sense Media, children aged 8-12 in the United States spend an average of 4-6 hours a day on screens. Dr. Susan Linn, a psychologist specializing in child development, suggests that reducing screen time can significantly improve a child’s focus and social skills.

The “Chore of Shame”

Public accountability can be a powerful motivator. The “Chore of Shame” involves having your child perform a chore in a public space where neighbors can see them working. These chores may range from picking up trash in the neighborhood to washing the family car on the driveway.

A survey by the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry found that 75% of parents believe chores help build a sense of responsibility in children. Public chores can teach children about the consequences of their actions and impart the importance of safeguarding the environment and contributing to the community.

Disclaimer: This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information.